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What’s happening for you right now?

People struggle with many issues including guilt, rejection, loneliness, isolation, stress, depression, feelings of confusion, fear, lack of control in their life and sickness. You might be a survivor of abuse but are struggling with the feelings it has left you with. Whatever is causing you to look for the support of a counsellor is unique to you. We all handle things differently, we respond and behaviour differently.

Feeling low, stressed, tired, anxious, then you might be suffering with depression

Depression is different from feeling down or sad. Unhappiness is something which everyone feels at one time or another, usually due to a particular cause. A person experiencing depression will experience intense emotions of anxiety, hopelessness, negativity and helplessness, and the feelings stay with them instead of going away.

Depression can happen to anyone. Many successful and famous people who seem to have everything going for them battle with this problem. Depression also affects people of every age.

Living with depression is difficult for those who suffer from it and for their family, friends, and colleagues. It can be difficult to know if you are depressed and what you can do about it.

Signs and symptoms:

  • Tiredness and loss of energy.
  • Sadness that doesn’t go away.
  • Loss of self-confidence and self-esteem.
  • Difficulty concentrating.
  • Not being able to enjoy things that are usually pleasurable or interesting.
  • Feeling anxious all the time.
  • Avoiding other people, sometimes even your close friends.
  • Feelings of helplessness and hopelessness.
  • Sleeping problems – difficulties in getting off to sleep or waking up much earlier than usual.
  • Very strong feelings of guilt or worthlessness.
  • Finding it hard to function at work/college/school.
  • Loss of appetite.
  • Loss of sex drive and/or sexual problems.
  • Physical aches and pains.
  • Thinking about suicide and death.
  • Self-harm

If you experience four or more of these symptoms for most of the day – every day – for more than two weeks, you should seek help from your GP.

‘12.5 million working days are lost due to work related stress, depression or anxiety’

What is Stress?

Stress is a negative physical/nervous/emotional way that is a response to feeling in some way overwhelmed. Usually it is caused when the comprehended demands placed upon us seem to outweigh our power and ability to cope.

Stress can be caused by two particular things. Primarily it is down to whether you believe situations around you seem to be worthy of anxiety. Then it is down to how your body responds to your thought methods. This inherent and instinctive stress response to unexpected incidents is widely known as ‘fight or flight’.

The effects of stress

The effects of stress can be emotional, physical or psychological. Signs of stress are different in each person, with somebody expressing more physical signs, like high blood pressure or fatigue and others expressing emotional or psychological signs like depression or irritability.

Some signs of stress:

-Irritability
-Headaches
-Loss of appetite or over eating
-Easily angered or frustrated
-Depressed mood
-Anxiety
-Fatigue
-Trouble falling or staying asleep
-Trouble concentrating
-Muscle aches
-Rapid heartbeat
-Upset stomach
-Heart Problems

What to do next?

If you have any questions or would like to find out more you can email me at vicky@flourishpersonaldevelopment.co.uk or call me on 0121 405 2811

“I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become.” 
― Carl Gustav Jung